this is not about maureen.

[lwoodbloo]

Why can't I just consider that someone is not trying to hurt me when they bring something to my attention? Just because they are my affairs doesn't mean someone is trying to run them for me. Lord. Can't you (that being Matt) just suck it up for a second and listen? She's not trying to hurt you, she's trying to help! How would you react if she blew up at you when you were trying to help her out? Consider how badly you upset her tonight. Consider how upset you are not. Do you want to avoid this in the future? Good. Then sit down, shut the fuck up, and listen to what she has to say. Not what you think she's saying, but the actual text. If you want to be an adult, put your big boy pants on and act like it.

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[tarnakk2.livejournal.com]

Good advice, actually. Could have been applicable to a dozen or more situation I've had lately.

But one thing I will say here. I don't think you ever have to be too concerned about what's inside you. You are not only a good and honest person, but you give of yourself. So many in this world can't get over themselves long enough to give anyone anything - let alone the way you do.

So be of good cheer. Whatever needs working out is within your grasp.

[gaoisnurse.livejournal.com]

And don't forget to breathe. Nice and slow and deep and easy.
I think you have the right idea. Anything anyone else says (or does) to you is THEIR stuff; their actions based on their perceptions/interpretations/motivations. While everyone (IMO) ought to consider the effects of what they say/do on others, it is also important to be able to have a healthy emotional/psychological "shield" between oneself and whoever else is commenting or offering advice/opinions. Whatever they say may or may not be relevant or true for you. And if something someone says hurts, regardless of whether they meant it or not, it might (might) be worth taking a look at why it hurts.
What others say is their choice; how you take it and act based on it is yours.
But that's just my opinion; so take it or leave it,and I hope I didn't hurt your feelings. ;-)
Love you, man.
JB

[saintlex.livejournal.com]

*hugs*